The five stages of grief have become common knowledge. Some have even called these stages conventional wisdom. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance were first described by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross in her 1969 book, On Death and Dying. For today’s understanding of how grief works, it’s important to point out a few flaws of the five stages model.
Myth 1) The five stages describe what it’s like to grieve for a loved one. Actually, they were originally named the five stages of responding to catastrophic news from studying responses of terminal patients. The subjects Kubler Ross studied were told they were dying, and the five stages were common responses among those studied. She was not studying those who were grieving over a lost loved one. That could be quite different.
Myth 2) With these five stages, the idea came about that a person must go Continue reading